How to Pick a First Dance Song for Your Wedding

The first dance — whether you’re a dancer at heart or not, the first dance is one of those heavily emphasized aspects of your wedding day. Maybe you’ve been trying to think of what song to use, but you don’t “have a song” and don’t know how to choose. Maybe one of you really likes a song that the other doesn’t.

Then there’s the not-so-small matter of the actual dancing part. I’m willing to bet that you don’t like the idea of dancing in front of everyone, and are worried that you can’t dance. Truth is that no one is expecting you to be a world class dancer. They just want you to look like you’re enjoying yourself! 

There’s a lot to keep in mind when picking out your first dance song, so let’s dive into some things to consider. 

Scroll to the bottom for a list of Spotify playlists with wedding song suggestions.

1. Choose what you love. Be unconventional if that’s you.

Maybe there’s a song that was playing on your first date, or a song that holds meaning to you both. If you can’t come up with one, then start to think about what “wedding music” could mean to you. Maybe it’s a classic love song or something traditional. But if typical wedding music isn’t your thing, look around for other options.

Like if you want to jam out to Maggie Rogers or The Arctic Monkeys or whatever you like to listen to, just freaking go for it. There are no rules when picking out your first dance song, and if you’re not into things feeling overly traditional, then feel free to think outside the box. 

Having trouble thinking of first dance song and want to explore non-traditional options? I’ve got you covered – check out my Spotify playlist for some fun and unconventional options. 

2. Consider the tempo.

The tempo of your first dance song is definitely something to take into account. If you want to choreograph something, don’t be afraid to pick something a little more upbeat! However, if you’re planning on just sticking to a romantic sway, you might want to keep it low-key so that you’re able to keep up.

Don’t forget about the energy level of the song too. People at weddings tend to get antsy when the first dance song is a very slow number. Find a balance that works for you, and practice at home!

3. Timing is everything.

Unless you are a performer, chances are you don’t dance in front of people very often. With that in mind, try thinking about the length of the song. You don’t have to use the entire song for your first dance if you don’t want to! 

Consider trimming the song down to a minute or two to capture your favorite parts of the song. A full 3-4 minute song will feel like ages when everyone is watching. And you’re probably going to want to get on to eating some of that delicious wedding food you picked out, so don’t make everyone wait forever.

4. Be Precise

Once you’ve nailed down that perfect first dance song choice and the exact cut you want, save it as a cut file and send it to your wedding DJ! The last thing you want is for the wrong version to play or a different cut to begin when you’ve been planning for this moment. Sending over the exact file will be a huge lifesaver for everyone involved.

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No matter what song you end up choosing, your first dance is something you will always remember and cherish.

If you want to explore even more wedding songs, I’ve got a set of playlists on Spotify for you.

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See you next time! 

Jess 

Emslie